Where am I? | Sutherland Shire Family Photographer
Recently my 7 year old son was watching me edit some personal photos of our family - taken on our last family getaway. It was only a short 4 days away so I didn’t take the hundreds of shots I normally do, however he asked me where I was. I pointed out the 2 that were taken of me, coincidentally one that he took, and another that hubby did.
“Where’s the rest?” he asked. Yes, indeed, I thought.
I’ve been acutely aware for some time that I am never in the picture, and I thought I had taken some steps to rectify this. After all, I am ALWAYS advocating to my clients how important it is to be in the frame rather than outside it. Obviously I have a little way to go.
In the past it was all too easy to be the one behind the lens. My hair was never “done”, I hadn’t had any personal grooming (aka the eyebrows), and I was ever conscious of the double chins - and worse - the spare tyres. Even made up there was little chance of me jumping in whilst someone took a photo.
I could blame the fact that everyone wanted ME to take their photo. But the actuality was that I felt relief. Thank goodness that I wasn’t plastered over social media looking like something the cat dragged in, or having someone note that wow! hasn’t SHE piled on the weight lately.
A pretty sad tale that I won’t be around to tell when the grandkids ask, isn’t it?
It’s not confined to being a photographer by the way. My own mother is a guilty one. “Please delete that one, it’s awful” Thanks mum. Too many women - wives and mothers are saying just the children please, or the baby. None of me.
Why? Because you just had a baby and you haven’t had any sleep and you have bags under your eyes? Because in all the chaos of pushing a baby out you haven’t had a chance to wax your mow or put on some mascara? Or it took you so long to dress 4 kids under the age of 3 and get them in the car after a meltdown that you forgot to brush your hair?
In my case, it was just that I didn’t like the way I looked. Well bully for me - it happens to be the WAY I LOOK. Suck it up princess.
I AM going to change this. I thought I had, but not enough. I can’t tell my clients that they have to be in the photo. I can’t change the way other’s feel, if they seriously don’t want to do it. But I will be doing this for me. No actually it’s not for me. It’s for my sons. So they can point out to their kids and their grandkids this happy person who may or may not have plucked her eyebrows or possibly has too many chins and rolls. Somehow I don’t think they will be looking at that.
In the interest of full disclosure - darn straight I edited these images. I’m not THAT crazy that I don’t want to look my best!